“He Just Wants to Be Unhappy” — Husband Complains About Pool Table That He Picked Out Himself

A pool table went viral on TikTok after a woman named Jessy (@jessbessy16) highlighted how difficult marriage is.

The pool table in question was the center of a story Jessy relayed about how finicky and non-communicative people can be in relationships, and how frustrating it can be for the other person to deal with this behavior. She shared her tale in a viral TikTok in response to a query from another user on the platform.

"Please explain to me what you mean by marriage is hard," a TikToker who goes by Liver asks in the beginning of Jessy's stitched video, her hair draped over her shoulders, tucked into a green beanie.

The clip then transitions to Jessy who speaks directly into the camera, wearing large spectacles and a yellow and black striped shirt that makes her look like a human-sized bumble bee.

Jessy responded to Liver's video with a "perfect example" of this statement, going on to say: "We just went out and bought a new pool table the other day. So I decided, you know what, let me ask my husband to see if he wants to come with me, we can pick the pool table together. We get there and my husband's been complaining that I don't give him enough of a say in anything," she says in the clip.

She continues: "So I say to him, we get into the show room and I say to him, 'Which table do you want?'" — a statement she punctuates with hand gestures, pantomiming that he had a wide variety of different pool tables to choose from and that the end result would be up to him.

"And he goes through all the tables, he's like, 'This one's nice.' I said OK, we go over to the pool table and ... there's a felt. And I say, 'What color felt do you want that'll make you happy?'" she recalls, referring to the cloth material that's placed on pool tables that allows for the smooth movement of the billiard balls.

"He says, 'Well I want either red or green.' I said, 'Well I don't want red, I hate red felt pool tables.' He said, 'OK, we'll do green.'"

With that settled, next it was time to pick the shade of green. "So, they have five different colors of green, we lay 'em out. He said, 'Which green do you like?'"

She then pointed out the shade of green that appealed to her the most. "I said, 'I really like the English green ... which green do you like? Do you want green?'"

According to Jessy, the hue that her husband liked just so happened to be the same hue she selected. "I said 'OK, fine.'"

But as it turns out, everything was not fine, "We get in the car, and I look at him and I pat him on his shoulder and I say, 'See? You do get a say in things. Are you so happy now that you got the pool table the way you wanted it?' And he looks at me and he goes, 'It's not what I woulda picked,'" intimating that he had an attitude while saying it.

Jessy expressed how she was taken aback by this admission from her significant other: "I was like, 'What? Excuse me, turn the car around, what?' He goes, 'Well they didn't really have much of a selection, it's not exactly what I would've picked.' I go, 'But you picked the style.' 'Yeah but I also wanted red.'"

Again, she was confused by this situation, "I go, 'But you picked green. You said red or green. And then we picked green.' 'Yeah but I would've picked red.' Literally, five more seconds down the road he says to me, 'What color did you like?' I said, 'Well I was gonna go with either the navy blue or the gray.'"

Her husband seemed to like at least one of those options. "[He said] 'Show me the navy blue.' So I had to show him the navy blue. He goes, 'Yeah, call 'em, tell 'em switch it to the navy blue.' Blows my mind," she says, putting her hand to her head as she smiles into the camera and ends the clip.

Several other folks on the app stated that they, too, were also frustrated by the responses her husband gave during the pool table shopping experience: "'That’s not what I would have picked' … I would have lost it right there," one person said.

Another thought that Jessy's husband was being problematic just to occupy time: "He's just arguing to argue."

There was another user who thought that issues like the one Jessy experienced weren't just due to the fact that marriage is difficult, but that these issues are compounded by the fact that some folks are married to people with terrible personalities: "Marriage is hard but it also seems like a lot of you are married to a man child…"

One commenter thought that this wasn't the end of the pool table incident, stating that her husband was going to transmogrify the situation into stating that Jessy ultimately ended up getting the exact table she desired: "I guarantee you that sometime in the near future, he's going to say that you got the table you wanted and that it's not what he wanted."

There were folks who responded to her video who offered up advice to Jessy on how she could best handle the issue with her husband: "I feel the only appropriate solution is to cancel the order and order exactly what you wanted then gaslight him into believing he picked it."

And while Jessy seemed to handle this disagreement with her husband in stride, it seemed like there were other people who didn't find his behavior all that endearing. In fact, one person said that it was because of repeated squabbles like this in their previous relationship that they ended up calling it quits: "I got divorced over a lot of these little things — they add up over time."