“Our Generation Would’ve Handled It Differently”: Mother-of-Bride Pours Wine on Guest Unprovoked
"At the wedding, the mother of the bride walks by her with a full glass of wine, dumps it down my daughter's dress, and just keeps walking, doesn't say a word."
Published June 25 2024, 3:28 p.m. ET
"Tell me if you think our generation would have handled this differently?" asks TikToker Sylvia Gordon (@themedicarefamily) before launching into her anecdote about the experience her daughter had at the wedding, which is at the center of some dress drama.
"My daughter went to a wedding where she was the guest, her boyfriend was the invite. She knows no one there," Syvlia states.
"He's a wonderful person," Sylvia says, "there's nobody that could have a gripe with him, and she's his first girlfriend so there's no jealousy issues. At the wedding, the mother of the bride walks by her with a full glass of wine, dumps it down my daughter's dress, and just keeps walking, doesn't say a word."
The gratuitous and blatant sign of disrespect puzzled Syvlia. "It was obviously a targeted hit. My daughter starts crying, she knows nobody here, she can't have done anything wrong to anybody. She's also a sweetheart," Sylvia states, illustrating even more of how unjust the run-and-gun wine attack was.
Sylvia says that after her daughter burst out in tears, her daughter's boyfriend ended up finding a unique solution to their problem: "She's crying, so her boyfriend, that I love, goes 'It's OK, it's OK.' She goes 'no it's not OK.' He takes his drink, pours it down the front of him."
And although Sylvia notes that she loves her daughter's boyfriend's intentions, she says that older generations would have handled this issue in an entirely different manner: "Now this, my friend, is where our generation would have handled it differently. Am I wrong? I'm not condoning violence but I'm saying my generation would not have poured the drink down our own shirt."
She seemed bewildered by the young man's response: "I'm very confused about this new generation," she states, before the video ultimately cuts out.
She provided some further context on the issue in a follow-up video where she says that someone apparently sent her daughter a link to her original TikTok video, and her daughter and boyfriend read some of the comments people left in response to Sylvia's clip.
They decided to answer one of the questions, particularly from folks who thought that maybe she was wearing something the mother of the bride thought was inappropriate for a wedding.
"So I did not send the video to my daughter, but somebody else did. And she and her boyfriend read all the comments and they said 'Will you be sure and tell everybody that I was dressed completely appropriately? I had the same style, dress, that everybody there did.' Her dress was not white; it was very, very gold, yellow, could never be mistaken as white," she says, ruling out there being any issue on the mother of the bride's part with her daughter's dress.
What's even more surprising is that Sylvia says that the bride and groom from the wedding are "very nice people," and that her daughter and boyfriend actually hang out with them quite regularly: "My daughter did not know them but since the wedding she and her boyfriend have hung out with the bride and the groom and gone out to dinner many times."
Despite being close with the bride and groom, her daughter never brought up the incident to the couple, according to Sylvia: "She has never mentioned this to them. They have no idea. So I don't know if maybe the mom is an alcoholic, but my daughter didn't do anything wrong."
And in another follow-up video she shows off her daughter's dress to clearly demonstrate that it was, in fact, yellow/gold and not white or inappropriate for a wedding like some suggested.
"My daughter's very happy because the vast majority of you support her and her boyfriend for not escalating the situation, not causing a scene at the wedding, not doing what I would have done and most of us would have done. Now I've had people call me out and say this totally sounds fake. OK, why would I? I don't care, I don't need clout, I'm an old lady," she says into the camera, addressing claims from folks that she could be falsifying the story for likes.
Sylvia goes on to say: "But, for clout, for proof, here's a picture of my daughter's dress. Which of course she had to throw away 'cause it's sad. The other questions that you have [asked], why are they friends with that couple. They have never told the couple because the couple are nice and .... why tell the couple your mom's psycho?"
She goes on to say that telling the couple about the mother's behavior isn't really going to accomplish anything: "If the mom's psycho, the daughter probably already knows it. Why embarrass them? I think that's also very classy for them to sleep on this."
However, Sylvia states that she would've gone about the situation much differently and admits that just her upload of the situation is a bit of a glimpse into how she would've handled things had she been there in person: "I'm not classy for sharing it," she says.